Attachment theory is all about the relationships we have and how we feel in them. According to attachment theory, early childhood experiences shape how we feel in relationships and impact us our whole life .
How our needs were or were not met is what ultimately forms our attachment style later on in life.
In this episode Erez invites Psychotherapist Greg Bodin back on the show. Greg was previously on The Shek Check to talk about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This time around, Greg is here to help us understand attachment styles, what attachment theory is, and how our attachment style influences all the relationships we have.
There are 4 main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.
A secure attachment style is categorized by feelings of security and safety.
An anxious attachment style is categorized by fear of abandonment and constant check ins.
Avoidant attachment type is displayed by distancing yourself or becoming overwhelmed in a relationship.
Disorganized attachment style stems from severe early trauma and adverse experiences.
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How can knowing your attachment style help you in the therapeutic process?
Greg explains that by knowing how you feel in relationships, you can utilize mindfulness regarding your behaviours. Being aware of the behaviours that cause stress in your relationships allows you to change the pattern and take the time to self soothe.
You can rewire your brain to change the way you interact with the world and yourself, it just takes time.
Understanding your behaviors can help you change.
Greg Bodin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California (MFC 86596) and a Certified EMDR Therapist. He has a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology from the University of Louisiana and a Master of Science degree in Counseling Psychology from Dominican University of California.
"I'm a therapist because I understand the power of change. I'm an optimist and I believe that we really can relate to pain in a different way and move our lives forward."
-Greg Bodin LMFT